Why seek couples counseling?
Marriage– whether arranged or love– can be long, complicated and hard. All couples, at one time or another, struggle in their relationship. They fight about sex, money, children, in-laws and spending time together. But whatever their issues, they tend to get stuck in repetitive cycles of negative interactions that undermine their connection over time.

Types of issues
Couples come to counseling for all kinds of issues- discovery that one person is having an affair, sexual difficulties like erectile dysfunction and low desire, too much conflict, difficulties with extended family, infertility, making big life decisions (e.g., having children, adoption, moving for a job etc.) and lack of closeness and communication.

How does it work?
The focus in couples counseling is on breaking the cycle of repetitive arguments, addressing past and present pain and moving towards a more intimate and stable relationship. You also learn to communicate more effectively, reduce conflict and meet each other’s emotional needs.
Initiating couples counseling can feel scary and intense but is probably easier than staying stuck in a painful and dissatisfying relationship. And although couples counseling involves a fair amount of work, just a few sessions can help the couple start moving towards the type of relationship they want.
My treatment philosophy for couples is based on the evidence-based model Emotion-focused couples therapy and the theory and practice of Dr. David Schnarch